It’s been quite a while since I’ve last posted, hasn’t it? A lot has been going on and while I haven’t been posting as much as I had planned to in the beginning of the year, I’m glad I took the past few months away to refocus and reset myself. So let’s do a lightning round of catching up, shall we?
Right now, we are still in the midst of a pandemic and I don’t know about you, but I feel like my life has been in shambles the past 4 months. Yes – I’ve previously posted about joyful moments, but sometimes I have to be realistic and not just focus on the tiny joyful moments, but acknowledge and address the anxiety and difficult moments — trust me, and there are A LOT of them.
For the past few months, I’ve personally been going through unemployment and a breakup (along with the whole world going through a pandemic) and my anxiety has been at an all time high. I remember there were days where I just couldn’t do anything because I was so overwhelmed with emotions and anxiety. All I could really had the energy for was focusing on breathing and just getting through each day one by one.
Thankfully, I am now employed (with my dream company!) and it is definitely a huge relief. What I want to share with you is today are some realizations I’ve learned the past months.
- Be Gentle and Kind with yourself. We are in some unprecedented times right now and it’s okay to feel lost, anxious, confused, hurt, angry, etc. All of those feelings are VALID. Let me say that again…What you are feeling right now is OKAY and your feelings are VALID.
Going through my breakup, I had to teach myself (and still am learning everyday) how to focus on myself again. Coming out of a 2 year relationship with someone who I thought I was going to marry was a rude awakening because I had lost my best friend. There were moments when I would cry all day because I was so hurt and heartbroken. I didn’t want to feel the sadness and would often get angry with myself for feeling broken. However, through prayer and journaling, I slowly learned to be gentle with myself. I learned to acknowledge the hurt I was feeling and and be kind to myself and to my thoughts. I’m still learning to be comfortable with my feelings, but it’s certainly gotten easier to sit with them and letting the feelings go.
- Good things are happening to and for you. As some of you may or may not know, I’m Catholic. So for me, I trust that God will provide and lead me to the path he wants me to be on. However, for those who are not religious, let’s perhaps say that the Universe has something amazing waiting for you. Either way, I’ve learned that good things take time and that a rejection (for a job or in a relationship) simply just means “not yet”.
I was constantly getting rejected from job applications for months and honestly, at one point, I was just simply waiting and expecting that rejection letter. However, what kept me going was trusting that God (or the Universe) was looking out for me and that every rejection I faced was a learning experience. I’ve been on countless interviews now and after each one, I felt more and more confident in my interview skills. Today, I can happily say that I am now employed at one of my dream companies and those 4 months of persistence was well-worth it.
- Create/find your support group. Confession: I struggle from major anxiety and I have gone and will continue going to therapy for it. What I’ve learned is that during those anxious moments is that I have some supportive friends and family. They aren’t my therapists (and they shouldn’t be), but they have talked me out of many panic attacks and they never gave up on me. They were gentle and patient with me when I was being hurtful to myself and I’m truly grateful for them. What surprised me even more was that I wasn’t alone. I learned that everyone was going through some sort of struggle and by supporting each other, I no longer felt alone.
So find your own support group. You’ll be surprised by how many of your friends will be there to support you. I understand that sometimes anxiety tells you otherwise, but don’t listen to those thoughts. Just by opening up even a little bit to your support group can really help realize that you aren’t alone and that you are so loved and worth it.
The past few months have definitely been a journey for me and that journey is still going! I’m just a little bit more prepared and open to accepting whatever is coming to and for me. The lessons that I’ve learned will certainly remain with me to embrace what is yet to come!
Xoxo, Chrissie Carly
So tell me, what are some things you are learning or experiencing during this time?